Friendships.

I guess a simple question now days are a big concern to other people, trying to look out for someone isn’t always as easy thing. Honestly trying to protect your good friend. I don’t know when friend can turn around out of nowhere and slap you in the face. I mean all you know is everything is all good, and you would do anything to stay friends. You friend is to be someone who cares for you and you care for them, spend social time with one other and share secrets. I haven’t felt so friendless in my life. No joke. I can’t remember when my last social gathering happened with a friend. Everyone now days, at my age are so into boyfriends, or fwb it’s a joke. You honestly have sleep over’s turn into coffee gatherings.  And how about going for a walk, is now grabbing drinks. Hitting the hottest party turns into forgetting your night at the hottest bar downtown. All threw high school all I wanted was to grow up, and be old enough to make my own decision and have a real potential boyfriend. Every movie, song, music video, and book I every read made it seems so simple and awesome. Let me tell you this, life is no Note Book, or is it any Titanic, Honey, Walk to Remember, Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, or Moulin Rouge. I don’t know when it happened but it happened, life lets you know there will be no more sleeping over with friends, high school parties, or walks for fun. So after prom I would say you have no more use for mud mask, chocolate fondue kit, cookie cutters, and romantic comedies with friends. Life changes and you don’t notice it because everything seems so exciting and new, but when you look back you notice what you miss. Like that quote, you don‘t know what you had till isn’t gone. So very true!  Hold onto your friends, they are super hard to replace. I honestly don’t know how spending a day to day with someone can turn into two visits a year, we lived 9 houses apart, sure I understand people move from time to time, and then leaving for college wasn’t the best bet, but no joke were a 40 minute drive from one other. Friends, text day in and out, call all the time, and always post on each other social media. When one friend text another and no one replies, sure leaves you hanging, it’s a total buzz kill on your day. It isn’t always the easiest to text a friend who doesn’t listen to you, but I someone who takes it all to heart. So if you don’t reply or do reply with attendant I would much rather have you not replied at all? When your friends are happy you’re happy. If feed off positive energy, you have plenty of positive outcome. So listen up to anyone who reads this and is a friend to anyone at all, only give positive outcome in text message, because honestly. Text don’t tell tone of voice, and anything in a text message could leave someone upset. Trying to repair an old friendship seems harder than keeping a friendship intact. I’m not kidding you. I feel I haven’t done wrong, and friends should always have their ups and downs, but there should never be a falling out for no reason. Maybe I am more mature then my friend herself, it’s sad to say. But one day, maybe she will understand and apologies. Keep your friends close to you; they will be much more important than any exam final, boyfriend, bar night, new house, or date night. Friends are gold, in retrospect in life. Without them, you bottle up all your stories and feeling about things and carry a huge weight on your shoulders.

A friendship can weather most things and thrive in thin soil; but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small, silly presents every so often - just to save it from drying out completely.

- Pam Brown